Posts for Thursday, March 13, 2008

It's all coming together.

Written on Thursday March 13, 2008 at around 2 PM

Today we put the kids in daycare so we could meet with our Financial Advisor and just kind of take it easy before we had to get back to the daily grind of work.  I found out today that my Mayo Clinic appointment is going to be on April 2nd.  We'll know a little more as to if my colon really has to come out (probably will) and what type of colon cancer it is.  In the meantime I have been doing things a little different.  I changed the music I listen to, I try to ride my bike at least twice a day (once with The Man and once with the family).  I doubt I've lost any weight but I have been trying to eat and clean healthier.

Just before New Years we decided that we should probably make a change and try to reduce our chemical intake.  So now I use Seventh Generation laundry soap and fabric softener.  Whole Foods brand dryer sheets that can be recycled and automatic dishwashing soap.  Giovanni hair products and Burt's Bees for facial and body stuff.  We try to be as friendly to the environment by reducing, reusing and recycling.  I use cloth bags for groceries and reuse the plastic ones.  I love the Target bags.

I have a pretty good support system in place:

• The Man gives me information and tries to help keep my spirits up.
• I now go to church.
• I see a therapist who is also able to help me see things differently.

I now go to a pretty good and large church here in the Valley.  We started going a few weeks ago and so far even though I don't really mingle, it feels as though the pastor is talking right to me.  The kids LOVE going and I'm glad that they do.  When I was growing up we never went to church but were told that if we ever wanted to go our parents would take us.

I knew better than to tell them I wanted to.  Because my parents didn't believe in GOD I didn't and wanted to be like them (as do most children do).  Unlike my parents I will not treat my kids like that.  I will be honest when they are a little older about my feelings with Jesus but right now I have found a way to accept it into my life.  Don't get me wrong I so am not a crazy religious freak but somewhere in the middle.

My family thinks that therapists are just another way to get your money.  Well it's all what you make of it, the same in life.  You have to find someone that you can trust and that honestly cares for your well being.  I have found mine and he is very helpful, kind and grounded.  He gives me different insight to things and also listens to me.  When you find someone like that, who can help you make your life better, keep them in your life.

The Man, well, it's all in his name.  Lately he's kept quiet but a lot has to do with the anger he feels towards certain people in his family. On a normal day though he's in a pretty good mood and has a good time.  I feel bad for him because now I feel as though I have trapped him because now he doesn't have the freedom to change jobs or whatever the case may be because of this whole pre-cancer thing.

So I'm going to stop being selfish for a minute (even though my therapist says it's ok for me to do right now) to tell you about the other crisis in the family.

The Man's dad had a massive heart attack over the weekend and flat lined on the way to the hospital.  The Dad in Law was released today into the care of his daughters and sister.  The Dad in Law and Mom in Law have been divorced for many years, but the oldest sister we shall call her......Selfish is being what her name says.  As soon as she gets into town she starts filling out paperwork as though he's dead.  He's been given two months to live if he doesn't change his habits.

We then have the sister we shall call her......um.......I don't know right now but will in time think of a name.  Then we have the middle sister and I shall call her.....Skinny and the youngest will be Baby.  So all these people are to be helping The Dad in Law get better and healthier and what are they doing you ask???? 

They are taking him to Waffle House and other grease factories.  The Man is getting mad and I tell him that you can't change him and is your family can't help him either then he doesn't stand a chance.  There also is bad blood between me and The Dad in Law but I'm willing to put it aside for the time being.  Last night Mom in Law asked us to email him some healthier recipes for Dad in Law to make.  Mom in Law said that we were the healthiest eaters in the family.  Really it's my brother in law and sister in law we shall call Hippie 1 and Hippie 2.  I love them dearly but they just have to think outside the "Hippie, no kid" box once in a while.

Mom is Law said yes the Hippies were the healthiest but unrealistic for Dad in Law.  Selfish heard that and as usual had to turn it so that she was center of attention and that she was healthier than anyone else.  She's really not, all she does is eat and snack.  I do too but I don't look nearly as fat as she does.

We invited Dad in Law to stay with us since he has to take two weeks off anyway and figured it would help him.  We ride bikes with the kids, the boys can golf, maybe he can watch the kids (I don't know if I trust him like that yet) and learn how to cook properly.  We all could eat a little healthier but we are monks compared to both our dads.  We'll see if he comes out.

So today was a pretty good day.  We went on a bike ride that last maybe an hour.  Trying to get this site listed in Google and also trying to get this house cleaned up before the people come tomorrow to fix all the problems with the house.  I guess I should get off my butt and get stuff done.  Plus we went on a new electric plan so we can't use electricity from noon-7pm Monday through Friday so it gets a little challenging.